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Hi Matt! I found this through your LinkedIn and wasn’t going to comment but I got through your post and felt compelled to (especially because you said to haha). Not sure if our paths ever crossed at USD but I know we had some friends in common in our class!

I moved to NYC right after graduation in July 2020 and the only person I knew who was going to be there was a friend of my roommate in Mission I met once and then decided to live with across the country in the middle of Covid. So, I thoroughly feel you on how lonely and exhausting it can be putting yourself out there and if I’m honest, I still have moments like that. NYC is just kind of that place. But when you find those select people, meet all of their friends and then their friends friends. That’s how I did it and built a small but sturdy group of great people I cherish, because like you said everyone is kind of in the same boat here. I saw a post on some platform when I first moved that has always stuck with me: NYC will break you in like your favorite pair of sneakers, it’ll beat you up but once you keep at it you’ll love the way you fit in them (with the occasional blister along the way).

And now that this long ass comment has become my own blog post I’ll end it there. But if you ever want to grab drinks or a coffee I’m happy to spread some of my limited NYC wisdom. You’ve got this!

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Claire! Thanks so much for the response. I love that analogy to sneakers. So fitting

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Good one Matt

See great things in your future

Clear eyes open heart can’t lose..FNL

Fully agree stretching yourself overcoming the comfort trap leads to growth!

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Thanks Jordi!!

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Just stumbling on these after totally biting on the "I met a girl" post. :) You are wise beyond your years and it seems you are right where you are meant to be. Love your attitude and spirit; it will serve you well there, I'm sure. The "rat counter" - made me laugh out loud and gag at the same time. That's a lot of rats! I hear Dane is headed your way -- so glad it works for him to visit you! Have so much fun!

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Thanks Krista! Pumped to have Dane out here.

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I love Brooklyn and the neighborhood-y vibe! Love this for you Matt, gotta get you on one of the Brooklyn Vespas as the weather warms up :)

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Yes!

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Loved reading this Matt , good to hear from you from a long distance. I know things will pan you - you’re the man bro! 🫶🏾

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Thanks brotha!!

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love it - the only way out is through!

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Yessir!

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Great read Matty, big things ahead!

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Thanks brotha!

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Loved this matt, especially the ending “perfect lives are boring the struggle is where growth is.” Keep being open and honest, these have been great reads 🙌🙌

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Appreciate that Geoff

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Damn 24 rats! I thought they were fake lol.

I love the realness in these- vulnerability, invites, vulnerability.

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Thanks Maren! The rats are real!

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Cant wait to come see ya

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